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How To Stay Sober After Dry January

Why It's So Common To Return To Drinking After Dry January, And 4 Effective Tools To Build An Alcohol-Free Life Year-Round



The Unexpected Side Of Doing Dry January


You are doing Dry January this year and it's going well. You decided you needed a break from alcohol, especially after the holiday season, but also after the whole year? Things just felt really busy last year. You got a promotion at work, you managed your kids' jam-packed schedules, there was the navigating of all the unexpected life stuff you can't plan for, and yet you somehow managed to have a bit of quality time with your partner. But it wasn't easy - and somewhere along the way you noticed your drinking had become your most trusted tool for coping with it all: the good, the bad, and the ugly. Of course you still have your sh*t together, it's you we are talking about, but by December 31st you were feeling more run down, more disconnected, more dependent on a substance than you ever thought you'd be.


So Dry January was an obvious choice. Take the first 31 days of the new year to take a break from your nightly wine habit, see how you feel, and go from there. A manageable goal. But now, as you power through the month, you recognize just how large of a role alcohol had actually started to play in your life, something you'd never have expected for yourself, and you realize you haven't felt this good in a while. Present. Calm. You've been reading quit lit in the bathtub at night (a new ritual for 2026), your fridge is stocked with canned mocktails and NA wines for the month, and you somehow managed to convince a handful of your friends and colleagues to do it with you. No hangovers, no shame, and your evenings have turned into dedicated quality time with your family.


But as good as you feel, the further into the month you go, you start noticing familiar thought patterns popping up - today was stressful, I could really use a drink, just one would be okay - and while you manage to resist the cravings, you check the calendar daily, to see just how many days are left in the month. You catch yourself fantasizing at work about what exactly you are going to have to drink to celebrate the end of Dry January, on February 1st.



If I can successfully do a Dry January challenge, why is it so hard to resist drinking again when the month is over?


Many women who participate in Dry January hope that it will be the kick-off point for their sobriety. They want to see if they can not drink for a month, with the idea in the back of their mind that it could be the thing that helps them let go of their drinking habit for good.


And sure, that certainly works for some. But for a large group of us, women who want to quit, we simply white knuckle through the 31 days of not drinking, and then return to the same behaviors we relied on before Dry January. I experienced this for myself many time times. Commit to a challenge, power through to the goal line, and then return to my old habits.


One reason why this happens is because during Dry January we remove alcohol from the equation, but don't change the patterns, thoughts, and behaviors that lead us to pouring the glass in the first place. So, when all of the sudden alcohol is back in the picture, when we no longer have the reason, structure, and societal acceptance of Dry January in our back pocket - the old response of "just one glass" fills the gap automatically, efficiently, and without effort. Our brains are wired to keep us the comfort zone, to keep us "safe".


You may have experienced a month of not drinking, but have you practiced choosing differently when alcohol is an option? Have you found new ways of managing stress? Are you ready to remove the goal line and commit to your alcohol-free journey?


Here are 4 tools you can use to start building a life where alcohol simply doesn't fit anymore.


  1. Visualize Your Alcohol-Free Life


    Part of the reason why it is so scary to quit drinking is because we are afraid of the unknown. Good or bad, at least we know the outcome when we drink. On the flip side, we don't know what's going to come up when we don't drink - and this can keep us stuck. So, to reduce the fear of the unknown, start familiarizing yourself with what it could look like, and in turn, what it could feel like, to move through your life without alcohol. Think of something you really enjoy doing or something you want to start doing: traveling to a new country, sunset kayaking on the lake, dance parties with your friends. What does this look like without alcohol? What does it feel like without alcohol? Visualize sober you.


    Action: Take five to ten minutes and write this out in a journal. Describe your ideal life without alcohol. How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? What do your days look like? How do you feel when you climb into bed? Start exploring these questions and then sit with it - visualize it. You see it. You believe it. You will achieve it.


  1. Build Healthy Habits To Support Your Body And Mind


It takes about 21 Days to disrupt a habit, it takes about 2 months to form a new habit, and it takes 8 to 9 months to create a new deeply formed habit. So you can think of Dry January as a great time to disrupt a habit. But it's that 8 to 9 months to really build a discipline in something like not drinking. It's not about willpower, it's about repetition and creating new healthy habits that serve you and reminding yourself that alcohol no longer does. Treat yourself lovingly and with care, every single day. You want to honor yourself and your health and remind yourself that you deserve to wake up every day feeling your best.


Action: Create a list of new healthy habits you want to incorporate into your routine to support your body and/or mind. Then set yourself up for success by starting small - commit to one of these habits to integrate into your day to day. Start small and build up.


  1. Manage Cravings With Intention


Remember this: cravings are temporary. You are building resilience when you face cravings. One strategy when a craving hits is to remember that you can control your thoughts and you can decide how you want to feel. Instead of focusing on the craving, change your thoughts from "omg this is so overwhelming, this is a big urge, I really want to have this" to "I am exactly where I should be. Everything is working out in the exact time frame as it should. I am doing an amazing job. I know if I were to have alcohol it is only going to be a temporary solution and I will not have any long term benefits. This craving is just a craving. What is it that I really want or need in this moment?" Remind yourself in that moment that taking care of yourself is not done with alcohol.


Action: Change the thoughts behind the craving. Ask yourself what it is you need in that moment to care for yourself and then take action. Nourish your body with things that will take care of you from the inside out. Move your body in a way that is going to serve you in the moment. Replace your evening pour with a cup of tea or a fancy mocktail. Stretch, go for a walk, change your environment.


  1. Find Your Support System


Strength comes from asking for help. When we open ourselves up to support, and as we tell people we trust what is on our mind when it comes to our relationship with alcohol, we start to become more comfortable with it, and in turn it enables growth. There are probably a lot of reasons why you’ve been trying to do this on your own. It can be scary to be vulnerable and put yourself out there, but know this: shame dies when we share our stories.


Action: Start thinking about 1 or 2 people in your life that you want to open up to about your relationship with alcohol. This could be someone you spend a lot of time with, a partner, friend, or family member. Or it can be someone who has been through this journey before, too.





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And remember, Lindsay is a sober coach, not a health professional. If you are chemically dependent on alcohol, consult your doctor on the steps you need to take to safely detox.

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