Becoming Sober You: The One Question You Need To Start Asking Yourself On Your Sober Journey

Before You Begin This Exercise as part of your Sober Journey

The prompts below are for you to spend some time thinking and writing about. You may have landed here because you listened to the sober podcast episode of Feel Good Alcohol-Free, "What Happen's To A Woman's Life When Alcohol Becomes Irrelevant" where I gave you this as your weekly assignment. On our sober journey, we spend so much time thinking about things, and don't get me wrong, information is critical. But transformation requires action - and yes, that includes self-reflection exercises.

If you are reading this because you were searching on Google or Chat GPT for something to support you as you start to question your relationship with alcohol, take your first break from alcohol, or are simply searching for some support to look inwards, I'm glad you found us here. You can start with the questions below, or you can first listen to the episode for some helpful context.

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The One Question You Need To Start Asking Yourself

If alcohol became irrelevant in my life, what would become possible for me? Oftentimes, and especially in early sobriety and/or sober curiousness, we focus on what we are losing, letting go of, or missing out on. So to be clear, with this exercise I do not want you to make a list of what you'd stop doing. Because right now, we don't care about that. We care about all of the incredible things you will be doing, and the parts of the life you will be building as you become the woman where alcohol is no longer relevant in her life.

Supporting Questions To Help You Answer

I know that is a big, open-ended question. To help you digest it a bit further, think about these follow-up questions to guide you:

• What would I have more capacity for?

• What would feel lighter emotionally?

• Who would I become if I no longer spent energy negotiating, regretting, or recovering?

• What does that version of me have, do, feel, think, say?

This is the good stuff, okay? This is your new standard of how you want to become her. Let yourself really consider: who do I become when this is no longer a part of my life?

Right now maybe alcohol isn't just a drink for you - it's how you relax, celebrate, cope, grieve, unwind - and it's connected to how your reward yourself and who you think you are. But here's the good news, when our fears start to soften, something beautiful happens - our curiosity takes over. And the question stops being about whether or not you can quit drinking, but what does your life look like when you don't need this thing anymore.

If alcohol became irrelevant in my life, what would become possible for me, is just a tip of the iceberg of what we explore deeply together inside Feel Good AF, either as a group, or in private 1:1 coaching sessions. If this exercise sparked something in you and you want to discuss your answers further, or maybe you need support in actually answering them, then come on in. I accept new clients into all of my programs on a rolling basis. And remember, readiness isn't a feeling, it's a choice.

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